and-the-distance:

Old Mellifont Abbey ~  County Louth, Ireland

and-the-distance:

Old Mellifont Abbey ~  County Louth, Ireland

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monetizeyourcat:

atomicdomme:

clubjacobin:

marxism-leninism-maoism:

marxism-leninism-maoism:

  • About 33% of men, and 38% of women […] felt both as a man and as a woman.
  • 41% of men and 46.8% of women experience themselves to some extent as two genders.
  • About 30% of men and 45% of women expressed a dislike of their sexed body.
  • 36.6% of our [non-trans] subjects reported that they sometimes feel as the ‘other’ gender, 63.7% reported that they sometimes wish to be the ‘other’ gender, 49% did not always wear clothes ‘appropriate’ to their sex, and 41.9% were sometimes discontent with their sexed body.

this didn’t get enough attention first time around tbh. I was shocked when I first saw this.

Those are amazing findings.

being trans is a feel and anyone can know it

this is the people who felt comfortable responding that way

for most survey designs, for most surveyors, five years ago, i would have been part of the negative

this survey if anything drastically underestimates how many people are to some degree or other dissatisfied by the options available to them under cisness

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(Roughly) Ordered from Least to Most Personal

  • 1: Do you prefer pancakes or waffles?
  • 2: What is your favorite breakfast?
  • 3: What kind of weather is your favorite?
  • 4: When was the last time you climbed a tree?
  • 5: What was your favorite year in school (so far)?
  • 6: What colors has your hair been in your life?
  • 7: Do you prefer your hair long or short?
  • 8: What's your go to sitting around on the couch food?
  • 9: What clubs do/did you participate in at school?
  • 10: What's the first money you ever legitimately purchased?
  • 11: What's the first album you ever legitimately purchased?
  • 12: How would you describe your aesthetic?
  • 13: What are little things that your good friends know about your that casual friends don't notice?
  • 14: What is something you and your best friend say/do that seems strange to an outsider?
  • 15: Do you like to sleep near the wall, the middle, or the open side of the bed?
  • 16: What's the strangest rumor that has ever been spread about you?
  • 17: What is the most flattering compliment you remember receiving?
  • 18: How involved were you in the drama of your high school?
  • 19: What's the most uncomfortable thing a stranger online has said to you?
  • 20: What's an embarrassing thing that has happened to you?
  • 21: When sleeping with another person do you prefer to stay over at your house or theirs?
  • 22: Do you ever send anonymous messages of any variety?
  • 23: Do you feel comfortable running into people from your high school?
  • 24: What laws are that you feel bothered by?
  • 25: Do you like to cuddle while you are sleeping?
  • 26: Do you know how many people you have kissed?
  • 27: What are things you find really sexy in other people?
  • 28: What are your favorite parts of your own body?
  • 29: What are you favorite places to be touched?
  • 30: Do you or have you ever owned any sex toys?
  • 31: How many times have you had sex with the last person you slept with?

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and-the-distance:

Hohenschwangau Castle. Bavaria. Germany

and-the-distance:

Hohenschwangau Castle. Bavaria. Germany

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daeranilen:

daeranilen:

Earlier today, I served as the “young woman’s voice” in a panel of local experts at a Girl Scouts speaking event. One question for the panel was something to the effect of, "Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"

I was surprised when the first panelist answered the question as if it were about cyberbullying. The adult audience nodded sagely as she spoke about the importance of protecting children online.

I reached for the microphone next. I said, “As far as reading your child’s texts or logging into their social media profiles, I would say 99.9% of the time, do not do that.”

Looks of total shock answered me. I actually saw heads jerk back in surprise. Even some of my fellow panelists blinked.

Everyone stared as I explained that going behind a child’s back in such a way severs the bond of trust with the parent. When I said, “This is the most effective way to ensure that your child never tells you anything,” it was like I’d delivered a revelation.

It’s easy to talk about the disconnect between the old and the young, but I don’t think I’d ever been so slapped in the face by the reality of it. It was clear that for most of the parents I spoke to, the idea of such actions as a violation had never occurred to them at all.

It alarms me how quickly adults forget that children are people.

Apparently people are rediscovering this post somehow and I think that’s pretty cool! Having experienced similar violations of trust in my youth, this is an important issue to me, so I want to add my personal story:

Around age 13, I tried to express to my mother that I thought I might have clinical depression, and she snapped at me “not to joke about things like that.” I stopped telling my mother when I felt depressed.

Around age 15, I caught my mother reading my diary. She confessed that any time she saw me write in my diary, she would sneak into my room and read it, because I only wrote when I was upset. I stopped keeping a diary.

Around age 18, I had an emotional breakdown while on vacation because I didn’t want to go to college. I ended up seeing a therapist for - surprise surprise - depression.

Around age 21, I spoke on this panel with my mother in the audience, and afterwards I mentioned the diary incident to her with respect to this particular Q&A. Her eyes welled up, and she said, “You know I read those because I was worried you were depressed and going to hurt yourself, right?”

TL;DR: When you invade your child’s privacy, you communicate three things:

  1. You do not respect their rights as an individual.
  2. You do not trust them to navigate problems or seek help on their own.
  3. You probably haven’t been listening to them.

Information about almost every issue that you think you have to snoop for can probably be obtained by communicating with and listening to your child.

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